Memories and Melodies: Songs Played at Funerals

The songs chosen to play at a funeral can provide a focal point for remembering the deceased, reflecting their personality, and comforting loved ones. In this article, we share some stories of the songs played at various funerals, offering a glimpse into the emotional and cultural significance of music during such poignant times.

The Navy's Sailor's Farewell

Music holds a special place in our lives, and at no time is this more true than during a funeral. My father, who served in the navy, had a special song choose for his service. The song "Anchor’s Away!" played as his casket was wheeled up the aisle in the church. His request was a nostalgic nod to his naval career, where this song was often played to bid soldiers farewell.

Axe Man’s Rebellion

"Highway to Hell" by AC/DC is a rock anthem that held a special meaning for a friend named Brian. Despite his unlikely choice, it's interesting to note that this song was also featured at his wedding. While asking other friends if he would have chosen "Highway to Hell" for the funeral, we received a surprising response: he had indeed played it during his own wedding. This illustrates how music can be uniquely personal and meaningful, even in such contrasting venues and moments.

Tragic Memories and Lost Youth

A funeral of an 18-year-old girl who died in a car crash showcased the wistful side of funerals. The song "She's Leaving Home" by The Beatles was selected for the ceremony. Sadly, the original version wasn't available due to copyright issues, and the church organ rendered a rendition that was far from perfect. This incident underscored the challenges in music selection, where the pain of remembering a loved one juxtaposes with the need to honor and respect their memory.

A Journey Through Life's Final Moments

At my mother’s funeral, "Sunshine of Your Smile" played during the service. This song was so impactful that it was also chosen for the funeral of her sister. At the funeral of my partner, a series of songs were selected to mark different stages of his life. These included "Another Day in Paradise," "Leanin' on a Lamppost," and a rendition of "He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother." This selection of songs allowed the attendees to reflect on various aspects of his life, from the lighter to the deeper.

A Post-Lockdown Gathering

In the midst of the first UK lockdown, singing "Going Underground" at the funeral of a friend brought a surprising element of comfort. The song was fitting for a person known for his cheerful demeanor, making the service a little less somber than usual. This simple detail highlighted how small moments of familiarity can bring great comfort and nostalgia in times of grief.

A Child’s Farewell

A child who died from a terminal illness under the age of 10 saw "Octopus's Garden" chosen as their song. This song was especially appropriate given its tranquil and optimistic lyrics, which offered a ray of hope during such difficult times. It serves as a reminder of the profound impact that music can have in remembering the time a deceased person spent with their loved ones.

A Fond Memory and a Beautiful Tribute

During the funeral of a friend, a bandmate played "Long May You Run" by Neil Young on an acoustic guitar. This song became a fitting tribute to the deceased, reflecting the sense of loss while also offering a beautiful and poignant musical offering. Its profound lyrics and haunting melody made it an ideal choice for the solemn occasion.

Music remains a vital part of our lives, especially during times of sorrow. These stories illustrate the diverse and meaningful ways in which songs can be selected for a funeral, fostering a sense of connection and comfort for those mourning their loss.