Is it Selfish and Lack of Responsibility if a Couple Decides Not to Have Children?

Selfish to whom - My husband and I are childfree by choice. We don’t want a pet either.

No, it’s self-care and self-respect to live your life for you. It’s wise to not do something you don’t want. Most people who have children do so out of selfishness, trying to fill a void in their lives.

Why Not Wanting Children Isn’t Selfish

Absolutely not. It doesn’t matter what the reason is for not wanting children. If a reason exists, don’t have them. Every child deserves to be wanted. Not wanting the responsibilities of parenthood is a very logical and valid reason not to have children. It’s not selfish; it’s being realistic.

Every one is different. Some of us have seen the horrors of other places in this world and do not want children. Some of us have been in places where we cannot have children. So are we all to be classed as selfish if that is the case? Maybe just maybe the woman is unable to have or to carry a child to full term. Are they to be classed as selfish as well? Be careful of what you assume; it will make an ass of you.

Reasons for Choosing Not to Have Children

Selfish, oh hell no.

Before we even met, my wife and I both decided we didn’t want children. Neither of us wanted the responsibility that never ever ends. I abhor infants. I think they’re disgusting. And I think there’s a problem with overpopulation. In 16 years, they’ll want to drive your car! Nope. Not gonna happen.

She was a diabetic, and her doctor had told her again before we even met that a pregnancy would probably kill her. Before we had even been married a year, she had to have surgery on several abdominal organs. Her doctor suggested that, since she’d be on the table anyway, they do a tubal ligation. Yes! Yes! Yes! The social workers counseled us about the consequences of the ligation, and we told them to shut up; it was great news for us! Plus, the insurance would pay for it. We could see no downside at all.

If you know that you would not be able to handle the endless rigors of parenthood, the responsible thing to do is not to have children. Not everyone is cut out for it.

Finding the Right Decision for You

The world of parenting has become increasingly complex, with various societal pressures and personal values influencing decisions. Whether you choose to have children or remain childfree, this decision is an extremely personal one. It is crucial to consider your own values, lifestyle, and the practicalities of parenthood.

For many, the decision to remain childfree is a result of a deep understanding of the responsibilities and challenges that come with parenthood. If you have seen the horrors of other places in this world, or if you have been in situations where the possibility of having children is impossible, this decision can be a matter of practicality and self-preservation.

Ultimately, what is most important is that the decision to remain childfree is made with the utmost respect for the choices of others. Every individual has the right to live their life in a way that aligns with their personal values and well-being. Whether you choose to have children or not, let it be with a clear conscience and a deep understanding of the reasons behind your choice.

Conclusion

In conclusion, deciding whether to have children is a deeply personal decision. It is not a question of selfishness or lack of responsibility but a matter of personal choice and self-respect. By making an informed decision based on your own values and circumstances, you can ensure that your choice is respected and appreciated by all.

Remember, every journey is unique, and your path is your own. Choose what is best for you, and let the journey begin.